Monday 14 July 2008

Do We Need Pre-Nups?

You’ve met the woman of your dreams, or, for that matter, the man. (S)he’s charming, sweet, sensitive, supportive, romantic and hard-working. As an added bonus, (s)he’s tremendously good-looking and also has a good job. (OK. Here’s where the alarm bells start ringing – how come (s)he’s available, are all the other men/women walking around blindly which enables this extremely eligible (wo)man to fly below the radar? For the benefit of this post, we’ll ignore those wretched alarm bells).

So you’re a practical so and so and decide a pre-nup is a good idea. There might be tears ('it means you don’t love me'); there may be lies ('poor (wo)man, how can I convince you not everyone is like that?'); there will be reassurance ('it’s just a crying shame that you haven’t met the right (wo)man'); there can be reverse psychology ('my family may not be wealthy...'); there certainly will be indignation ('what do you mean? How dare you? My father had 50 times what you have before he died'; or 'before someone duped him out of £50 billion'; or 'before my mum fell ill and he spent N75 trillion on her treatment abroad'). How do you navigate these obstacles?

…Or, maybe you still believe in the goodness of human nature, you being love-struck and all and thinking: what the heck is this fellow writing about? Where has he been? What sort of shady characters has he met? Pre-nup kó, pre-nup ni (in other words, don’t talk to me about pre-nup). Anyways, I have nothing of value that a future spouse can lay claim to if things go sour, at the most, a DVD player, a house and a car.

Did you just say nothing?! You may end up finding out that ‘nothing’ becomes ‘everything’. Ask Lanre who is now stacking shelves at night in the supermarket after he lost ‘nothing’. Ask Louis who has developed physical complications after mental illness when he lost ‘nothing’. Do ask “Sade” who felt she had to emigrate to Canada when she lost ‘nothing’, which included her erstwhile husband instructing a solicitor to claim a half share of her house on the day she was supposed to complete a sale, after he walked out and said he wanted nothing to do with her and her house.

Maybe we should use the case of Mr and Mrs Crossley to bring it home. In the UK, pre-nups are not as binding as in the US, however, this is a very interesting case. I quote a magazine: Mr and Mrs Crossley ‘were independently wealthy at the time of their marriage (indeed, Mrs Crossley had accumulated £18 million from three earlier divorces {that’s $36m to you folks across the pond}). Their marriage … had the benefit of a pre-nuptial agreement. When Mrs Crossley sought to extricate herself from the agreement in order to bring financial claims against her fourth husband, the Court of Appeal rejected her claim, making it clear that this was exactly the sort of case where a pre-nuptial agreement should be truly binding’.

A true example, albeit an extreme one. Your thoughts?

88 comments:

Eyin'ju Oluwa said...
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Eyin'ju Oluwa said...

Firstttttttttttttttttt

I mistakenly posted my password d first time, lol.

Eyin'ju Oluwa said...

LOL Mrs Crossley is gangsta...

Im not signing a prenup, i think its just rude on many levels*rolleyes*

Hiiiiii

Smaragd said...

ooooooohhhh, i thot i was going to be first!

Eyin'ju Oluwa said...

Hehehe sorry Smaragd

The Indecent One..... said...

lmao @ sewa posting her password...

this one na adrenaline rush to be firt...LMAO!

Jinta said...

* sewa - thanks for your password.

i AM signing a prenup if i should ever be mad enough to do it again

* smaragd - i suppose you should have signed a prenup with omosewa? lol

Jinta said...

* inde - adrenalin rush indeed. lmao

Flourishing Florida said...
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The Indecent One..... said...

hehehee...

Me I hate Prenups...not even wat sewa is saying abt it being rude but if u truly ever loved someone u married...i dont see the big deal in giving them ur house or half of wat u own...even if u hate them now and could shoot them if need be....for the sake of the love u ever shared with them...let them have it. Besides going into a marriage and having "Prenup" in mind just dictates that ure not serious..u already forsee a divorce in the near future so why bother?
You can do it if u dont feel like spending the rest of ur life with them sha...like celebs...coz those ones just marry 4 publicity...

Flourishing Florida said...

imagine! pre-wetin! na naija i dey o. no woman marries a man without checking his pocket. it doesn't mean she's marrying him (solely) 4 his money but he'd goddamned b useful 2 her!!!!!

i used to quip abt marrying a rich man. dis is a country where a woman, after years of suffering with her man & make ends meet, is cast off wen d man get rich. he suddenly sorts 4 a young lady 2 enjoy his money with him!!! in dat case, i'd prefer 2 marry a millionaire, so wen he tells me not 2 touch his car, i'd agree true true it's his car cos i no contribute nathin

pre-nup, my foot! any man who suggests dat to me is frigging kidding! i aint signing shit! & if i was d rich person, i'd still marry a richer man!!!! i no get mouth 4 story abeg

Flourishing Florida said...

geez, i hope i don't sound like a cold-blooded gold-digger here!

Jinta said...

* inde - the separation may be in the 'far' future, not near. you know as they say: sh*t happens.

dearest, sometimes its not just 'half'. some lose their homes, others (especially men) lose their children. these are infinitely more pricesless than a house

i suppose your argument's perfectly valid if you were happy to give it all were you the 'rich' party.

* florida - you always wake me up with the refreshing quality of your comments.

i dont think you sounded like a gold-digger - not a bit. clinically cold-blooded: maybe, but not gold-digging

Flourishing Florida said...

cold-blooded ke! kai, i no fit shout! ok, maybe am a bit cynical but if u've seen what countless wives of their youth has suffered n d hands of men, every woman wises up oh. n my university, i heard abt babes who doled out cash upon cash 2 their boyfriends & i couldn't understand d rational of dat action! i mean, na ordinary bf e be o! there was one african-american stand up comedian who made a joke abt every chicks giving sex n exchange of money, & then unnaked quoted someone who said 'unpaid sex is more expensive dan paid sex', plus missy elliot n 'work-it' 'girls, girls, get that cash. aint no shame, ladies do your thing. just make sure u r ahead of the game!. very true!!!! even feminism has not dissuaded me 4rm dat ancient logic!!!!

Jinta said...

* florida - unnaked was right on the button with that quote

years ago, i had a car sticker that read - divorce: the screwing you get for the screwing you got.

Flourishing Florida said...

LMAO. not dat it's funny, mind u! but i think n europe & d developed world, women do 2 men, what men do 2 women in underdeveloped world. in trying to correct d injustice done 2 women n d past, i think dem oyibos tilted d balance a little too far! i watch some chick-flicks & i see men (MEN O, WITH THEIR CORRECT MEMBER BETWEEN THEIR LEGS) going 'yes dear' 2 their wives!!!!! a man should b a man, not a wimp!

* am signing off. i've yarned plenty as it is already. i suppose am commenting all i won't b able 2 do 4 d rest of d week here. bear with moi. *

Jinta said...

*florida - glad to have your comments

have a nice intro

Smaragd said...

now now i've become number 16! na wa o.

Pre-nup is one awkward phenomenon that has not evaded Nigeria for which i am more than grateful!

While the Romantic in me thinks it's a sign of distrust which is ultimately a sign of "impure" love, the realist in me understands the fact that some people transform so fast after marriage that one would be left wondering if one is still married to thesame person!

I personally would probably not marry a guy who asks me to sign a pre-nup. BUT then again, never say never! because he might just end up protecting ME in the long run.

? said...

yes we need pre-nups cos no matter how good or great it is in the beginning things will always go wrong. Its like any drug, like have read, you will go up but will always come down and the eyes will get clearer

Jinta said...

* smaragd - a prenup might end up protecting you, as you say

* beneath - i like, i like. what goes up shall come down

Jaja said...

Pre nups may sound unromantic, but they are wise.

"wisdom is profitable to direct." Na King James bible talk am

O'Dee said...

I like having hope, being hopeful keeps me going.

If I agree 2 a prenup, I'll be murdering every fiber of hope in d success of my marriage.

Kiibaati said...

Actually, prenup will be a good idea on naija, where women sometimes get absolutely nothing. One day, she is just told to "park her load and go". Prenup seems to me, a fairer deal than "that"

The Indecent One..... said...

lmao @ Jinta and Florida....hehee...see argument.

Florida, calm down...u sound like ure yarning 4rm experience...lol. See venom!


@ Jinta, I see wat u saying abt shit happens...but like i said...for the sake of watever u shared with them...let them have it. If u truly ever loved them. And I think it's more painful (if i may use the word) to the richer party...becoz the other party tends to gain more and add it to their arsenal of watever wealth they previosly hador in some cases never had.
As for the children, never heard where prenups dictates who gets the kids...lol...so dont blame that on prenup jor. They can sort out custody rights and visit days...

But all in all, two pple should be able to work out their differences no matter wat. I strongly despise divorce. There must be a way!

Afrobabe said...

lol @ omosewa...now jinta has ur password....jinta pass it over...

Prenup...I wont sign oh....but hmmmm

Jinta, did you sign the first time??? did you loose everything???? or just half.....

you and I dont need a prenup now abi??

bumight said...

prenups will definitely come in handy in naija. dont think i want to sign one, I cringe at the thought!

Queen of My Castle said...

Oddly enough I have been pondering this very same issue. I guess going through a divorce makes one think differenly than those that have not. I still don't know where I stand in this issue. I know that I would never divorce with the intent to take the ex-hubby to the cleaners. All I would ask is that I get enough support so that our children could live a quiet and peaceful life without feeling like they have gone from riches to rags.

All that to say yes, I would sign one. Things happen. *Shrugs shoulders*

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TheAfroBeat said...

Tricky one. Have to say i'm not a fan. But love doesn't always get you through as we know. Would have to sleep on it, and then probably re-evaluate relationship and argument (motivations) of potential spouse in favor of said pre-nup.

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Nigerian Drama Queen said...

I think it all depends
If you have any assets that you inherited from your family and you want to stay in your family, then a pre-nup is a good idea. If your marrying someone who has kids, a pre-nup might be good, based on some messy situations iv seen.
My friend broke up with his girlfriend because of an argument over pre-nups...LOL
I guess I'll cross that bridge when i get to it

Jinta said...

* jaja - very well said. who can argue with the bible?

* oluwadee - may God never let you lose that hope. amen

* kiibaati - i dont think a lot of naija women realise it probably would work more for them than against them

as florida said, its been tilted unfairly in the west. it used to be to protect homemakers who suddenly realised that they had no skills and no prospects after spending years bringing up their children and keeping the home and the marriage now goes sour. now, every money-grabbing, poverty-stricken woman is on the bandwagon to clean their husbands out

* inde - "if you ever loved them, let them have half?" when did love equate to money, i beg? and what happens to those in their 4th or 5th marriages? they would have to get bank loans to service the halves the give away.

my motto: if you ever loved me, remove your freaking paws from what is mine

* afro - you and i dont need prenup jare. no mind them.

but as soon as we move beyond this blogville flirting, i will be dangling that iron-clad piece of paper right under your nose

as for 'sewa, her password is safe with me (for the time being). what do you want to bet that she changed that password pronto?

Jinta said...

* bumight - its like having an innoculation. unpleasant, but you soon forget you had it and it silently protects you for a long time

* QomC - my queen, my love, i agree with you except for the children. i disagree with the automatic presumption that children are always better of with their mothers. some of us are fantastic, responsible fathers.

now, would you consider paying maintenance to the kids' father so that they live in relative comfort?

* pink satin - me too, quite vehemently

* afrobeat - trust issue it may be, however, we evolve, our circumstances evolve, those around us also do. what was not an issue 10 years ago may bocome one now

* naijaDramaQ - lmao because it will be impossible to inherit any assets from your family if money-grabbing heffers had had their way along the road of your ancestry

Chari said...

I am going to get one simple and straight!

Chari said...

I know this sounds like an anti-thesis to everything I am buh mehn...


If you love me, you will sign the pre-nup

I know how rich I am going to be eventually, then one woman should now come and take half...she dey mad?

Jennifer A. said...

Interesting...everyone has their own level of wisdom concerning their marriage. Whatever the decision, a man must be one with his wife...

If both think a pre-nup is exactly what they need (just incase anything happens), then so be it...

If both place their marriage in God's hands, then they don't need to sign anything...God will give them the grace to have a successful marriage...

Jennifer A. said...

In addition, someone said "things will always go wrong." That kind of mentality will make a marriage go awry!

It is not always so...I know of quite a number of beautiful marriages...of course, these couples know that they cannot do it on their own...

Ms. emmotions said...

hmmmmm, am not in a hurry to leave my comment now....

Ms. emmotions said...

so jinta speaks on pre-nup here in naija, ....hmmmm

am goin to be very diplomatic here,
most women i ve heard go about making money by marryin and then divorcin some rich dude and by so doin claim mega portions of their wealth,

while i dont think a pre-nup should come in to play if both are truly in love, am also not going to pretend i dont know shit happens sometimes which might make divorce inevitable....hmmmm,

although i dont subscrib to divorce or seperation but i know there are times it might become useful to do one of these and its at that time that a rich dude could be protected ( pre-nup) from the woman if she is like the greedy one mentioned above,
so i think dependin the enviroment u find urself and the kind of person u are gettin married to, pre-nup should be considered...just in case its not truly love...cos love should be something that stays almost forever....my big uncle just had his 50th weddin anniversary, am inspired by these kinds....u know his my wife still calls him...MINE

jinta-gry, i really admire the quality of your posts, most them i dont just rush to comment on , that is when you are not lookin for a bird or aijay ......lol

Afrobabe said...

A million dollars...lmao..yep, I bet you a million dollars she changed the password asap...

ablackjamesbond said...

lol @ Chari...'If you love me, you will sign the pre-nup'.Funny.

Didnt even come up between wifey and I...but that may be because we both started from scratch.

But would we have signed if either of us or both were wealthy? I dont think so.

I do not think is wrong though. Life is full of examples of love gone sour.

Jinta said...

* chari - what occurs to me is that most men are for it and most women against. i need to think about that

* jaycee - you come from a perspective i've come to respect.

i have no doubt i loved my ex before marriage and into the first few years. thinking back, i may not have been cynical enough

i suppose it must also be said that i did not place my marriage in the hands of God (at least properly). my ex attended church very regularly, however, the more she did, the more i became wary of church and church-goers as her behaviour was anything but 'xtian'

...and yes, i also know of a couple of apparently good marriages

* ms emmo - you're right in writing that love is something that should stay forever. it occurs to me that, oftimes, we dont examine the quality of our love closely or cynically enough

thank you for your comment, although i have another bird post coming

* afro - lmao

Unknown said...

Hey Jinta how you
dey? Loving your post, bro.

I don't think there's anything wrong with a prenup o. All depends on what both parties think of it. It can protect the woman as well as the man. In Naija it would probably protect women more... I don't understand naija women's unease with it cos if you marry into some wealthy family and the guy dies, they won't let you get your hands on shit if there's no will or any other written contact!

Also protects family heirlooms where some gold-digger man marries a rich girl.

In the West, some women have truly taken their legal rights too far. Again a prenup would help some guys to keep some of what they've worked so hard for.

I don't believe a prenup jinxes one's marriage or means you don't love someone. Afterall you wouldn't drive a car or buy a house without insurance, why should one take the ride of life with another (kids and all) without insurance. It's just commonsense.

Find an agreement that suits both parties and you can take the ride of a lifetime together without unnecessary anxiety, knowing fully well what would happen if it's no longer roses. To me, it might even enhance a marriage.

Do I have a prenup? Not right now cos it's not really necessary at the minute. But we might consider one in the future when it's appropriate.

Jinta said...

* blackJB - i dont think it happens at all in naija. it never occured to me as well (and, like you, we started with nothing), however, life teaches one to look out of the parts of your eyes you never used

Jinta said...

* naijalines - "I don't believe a prenup jinxes one's marriage...afterall you wouldn't drive a car or buy a house without insurance"

i love that commonsense approach to life

Jinta said...

L A S P A P I

TODAY (15TH) IS LASPAPI'S BIRTHDAY. I HAVE DECIDED TO 'OUT' HIM AS HE HAS NOT ANSWERED MY TELEPHONE CALLS AND NOT RETURNED THEM EITHER. (Actually, i know he's been locked in a meeting with mo abu something or the other all day as i write since i just spoke with my sister, but who cares?)

Blogville should be aware that it is not by cot death (no matter what he says) if he smothers me in my sleep the next time i visit his yard

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

ah, the dreaded 'p' word. Well, if both parties are fine with it, then what is the big deal? If not, then na yawa for the person wey want am.

Are you thinking of getting a prenup, Uncle Jinta?

Jinta said...

* solo - lol. if madness were to push me in that direction again, certainly

The Activist said...

Prenup is great to sign like ASA said "no one knows 2mrw". Even if u r sure that nothing is gonna go wrong, it is still good to protect ones interest.

Tx for d b'day wishes.

BTW, I left a comment that needed ur response on my violence against women post but I got none

Jinta said...

* standtall - asa knows best. lol. btw, i saw asa in the departure lounge of MMH in lagos last month

will go back to your post and respond. sorry i missed it

Jinta said...

* standtall - ok, that was meant to read MMA

Woomie O! said...

As unromamantic and pessimistic as it sounds, 'i have nothing against signing pre-nups'...
As long as each party understands that marriage isn't really a business venture but an avenue to better not only your life but your partner's too.

Please be 'crazy to do it again'...it's wonderful if you do it right.

The Activist said...

That girl rocks. Let me go back and respond to ur comment b4 I get carried away wiv this ASA talk. Lol

Nicky said...

I’ve finally mustered the energy to tear myself away from the Face book phenomenon and engage in some intelligent blogging conversation as opposed to poking, super poking etc…

Pre nups are not officially recognised in UK law however the courts will have full regard to the terms of an agreement and will consider whether the parties were forced into signing; knew what they were signing,; had sought legal advice; were not in a disadvantaged position etc. Its essentially a contract and cannot be disregarded. It is very likely that they will become enshrined in UK Law.

I personally think they are a good thing…you keep what you brought into the marriage (debts as well as assets) and you divide the wealth you accrued during your marriage. Seems fair to me.

What I do know is that clients are flocking to get them, they are very very popular. So what does that tell you? We are now in a world where people consider themselves, their lives a business enterprise. As a very wise man once said to me things in life are either business or on credit….

Now back to senseless poking……

dScR?Be said...

He hasn't answered mine either.. lol

laspapi said...

hey, jintu, I didn't know you called o. This attempt to earn an honest living, has wahala.

dscr?be, you know I love you. I saw missed 'American' calls but they didnt read your number. I'll call you tomorrow.

Jinta said...

* woomie - marriage is actually a business. it is when we see it as personal that we take each other for granted. as a business, we certainly will work harder at it

lol at 'crazy to do it again'. you want to tempt lightening to strike 2ce in the same place?

* nicky - my legal guru, then that makes me a wise man

do take a breather from fb more often

* standtall - i shall go back again

* descr?be - he's annoying like that

* 'papi - all 3 times? ok, you owe me a call

Buttercup said...

im of the opinion that prenups r the way to go...for example, if im correct, the basis of michael douglas' n catherine zeta-jones' prenup agreement is if infidelity is occurs. in a case like that, if theres infidelity n ur less-wealthy, cheatin spouse didnt sign a prenup n he/she goes off wit half of ur wealth, wud that go down well wit u? def not...

as jaja said, the thot of it is unromantic, but wise..

Jinta said...

* buttercup - in that case, we should choose wisdom before romance

Unknown said...

I have no problems with prenups....4/10 marriages end in divorce anyway.

When men get older, they want red corvettes, with nice young girls who wear tiny, shorts and dance the samba...so best protect yourself.

Lol!! I am reading this crazy book that is giving me all these crazy thoughts so no mind me o!

LOL!

doll (retired blogger) said...

Prenups...practical but cold.....maybe necessary....depending on the circumstances

Jinta said...

* pamela - haba, you don finish men completely. the psychologists never seem to consider the fact that some men can only afford the red corvettes when they get older anyway, since their youth is spent mostly building the family

which book are you reading?

* doll - under all circumstances, i feel. better safe (and cold) than sorry

dScR?Be said...

@ Uncle Wolz.. I called with my new number.. hissss... tomorrow don reach oh.

@Jinat, I think its time 2 hupdate :)

dScR?Be said...

*Jinta

Jinta said...

* descr?be - what?? you dont have pity for me?

Zayzee said...

for my reason, i won't comment at all on this issue

Queen of My Castle said...

If I felt my children would be better off with their dad and my monetary contribution was needed in order for them to live peacefully, then yes, I would pay up. I will never belittle my ex-hubby too badly because he IS the father of my children and at one point in my life I used to love him dearly, but I would NEVER allow my children to live with that man unless God himself told me to. Yeah, divorce takes the blinders off an allow you to see things a bit more clearly. LOL

Ms Sula said...

See the Francophone system is quite different. During the ceremony, one is asked whether they choose a "separation of assets" or a "community of assets"... That determines what the people take with them when they divorce...

I have always thought that a "separation of assets" was a good strategy for several reasons... First, it made sure that a person was not with the other for money or wealth.

Second, it is a darn good business move. Suppose a husband or wife is involved in Businesses and they end up flopping. It's easier to put all the belongings into the spouse's name so the creditors can't come after it...

I have seen plenty of cases where (a fabled)romantism has made partners choose "community of goods" to end up bankrupt... Then, you best believe love (and its fabled romantism) did run out the door...

Ideally, it shouldn't be an issue... But being the pragmatic woman I am, I do think it is a safer deal to just keep what's mine and you keep what's yours... Doesn't mean we can do stuff together, we'll just dub it "ours"...

Queen of My Castle said...

Hey Hunny Bee,

I just updated. Hopefully this will make you a HAPPY Bunny. LOL

Lighty 'neferet' Kopearl said...

i was happy wit the crossley case, to be honest i personally thot £18m was too much 4 her.

i remember the newscaster or sum1 being interviewed made mi laff so hard, when she said if women cannot be bother to work hard do what mrs crossley does. or sumthing of that sort, cannot remember the context tho.

well pre-nup if u ask mi makes sense but at the same time its like planning ur divorce b4 u even get married and with the way life is going these dayz. this simply goes further to say even the dove spouse can be a beast tomorrow.
no one is perfect, everybody changes.

pre-nup is the price payed for sticking in or out of it.
slimmer chances of killing ur spouse for will this dayz. no need anymore.

dScR?Be said...

oohh but of course I feel 4 u Oga... :)

Allied said...

I still believe pre-nups belongs to the rich and wealthy...

I wonder how i will feel if a (wealthy) boyfriend proposes to me then says he wants pre-nup.

Would i think he doesn’t love me enough?

Perhaps

Would i sign it? definitely

Jinta said...

* uzezi - your comments would be appreciated, i know

* QomC - shall we say my 'blinders' are now off and i see too clearly for my own liking

* ms sula - i'm in total agreement

* QomC - i am an infinitely happier bunny, i confess

* lighty - enough spouses have been killed for less, i agree

* descr?be - thank you jare

* allied - think of it as an innoculation. painful when you're getting it, however, it silently protects you for a long time into the future

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darkelcee said...

Jinta, Jinta,Jintahhhhh

how many times did u hear me shout ur name?

*a kin se iru e ni ile yoruba*

Dont u dare sign it when u tie the knots again!

but hmmm , if i marry a rich dude i will sign sha (after thot though!) lolll

dScR?Be said...

and u will STOP spelling my wrong! ahn ahn!!!??!!

its dScR?Be

Abbie said...

Liberal Nigerian and new reader. Hi.

I totally one hundred percent believe a prenup is an absolute neccesity. Humans are programmed to change through experiences and if you don't prepare yourself for that you deserve what you get.

Oh another thing, I have life insurance on my child. Sue me.

ps: Can you please allow other users such as wordpress to comment with our real identities. Not all of us are partial to Blogger.

Abbie @ http://notperfectdotcom.wordpress.com/

Unknown said...

May I also add that Mrs Crossley got what she deserved! It was time she was stopped!

Chizoba said...

Before I graduated college, if you had asked me about prenups, I would have denounced them from here to kingdom come. Now with a degree nd possibility of an interesting job, I am afraid my judgement, when it comes to a guy, might not be all that, and he will fleece me of my "nothing".

On the other hand, I feel like telling someone you supposedly love to sign a prenup is like saying "Sweetie, I love you, but...".

I dont know. Until that time comes, I pray God will direct me on wht to do about it.

Sherri said...

Absolutely!!

guerreiranigeriana said...

...granted i wasn't born in the 50s, but if you had asked me this then, i would have shouted a resounding 'hell no!!!'...

...but today, the way people run around claiming undying love and in the quest to stay young forever, when my potential hubbie asks me to sign a pre-nup, i will gladly sign it...if he doesn't ask, i may ask myself...no one will fuck me over in the name of love...na lie o...i am not a vengeful person, but others are...

...but i am also a virgo, a practical lover;)...

...to each his/her own...interesting post sir jinta...

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Anonymous said...

@ Doja i dont agree with you at all...so for me its like this if a young man writes a will does it mean that he wants to die!!NOOO but shit happens...d same way with pre-nups...u dont want anything to go wrong with ur marriage but the reality is that things dont always work out as planned!!!people change in marriage!!I will so be signing a pre nup agreement if it comes up!!meanwhile jinta where is my last comment!!

dScR?Be said...

u still haven't updated?

Shubby Doo said...

'we want pre-nup, we want pre-nup'...seriously it is a good idea...it is practical. If u don't think u will get divorce...sign it & it won't come 2 pass...if u do split then u know what is coming u way. My own is make sure it is a fair-ish deal @ the start...key clauses 1. u get an increasing % of the wealth 4 every year of marriage...2. U get more if your spouse cheats...3. All bets r off if there is any sort of physical abuse

Flourishing Florida said...

with K-Fed getting $20,000 a month 4rm Britney, am almost changing my tots abt pre-nup!

dScR?Be said...

if i come here one more time and see sth about Prenups... hum.. don't test me oh!

But if i do, i will scent-mark u! so be careful!

u know, wats funny... i haven't even read it.. lol

princesa said...

I don't see what's wrong with a prenup sha.

I wish for a happy marriage till death do us part and for that reason, i won't even want to consider a prenup.

dScR?Be said...

ahhhhhh.. now i am worried dt u ahve not even responded 2 my rantings...

se o wa pa?