Friday, 7 March 2008

T G I F

My last post was one for which I had to carefully balance my argument as well as my comments, being conscious of those fearful ‘independents’ out there – you know who you are, you modern-day dinosaurs and tigresses – sherri, florida, g-nigeriana, desy, isi, indecent one (who would pour hot water, or was it oil? on laspapi's head), sha, afrobabe, allied, catwalq, anon gal, 30+, nicky, for the love - dare I continue?

Whilst I was not surprised by the bias of some comments, some totally astonished me. I mean, sherri agreed with me! I’m still doing joyous back flips and excited cart wheels. The flip side of that was onome: now, this was a woman I was in love with, her poster hangs over my bedstead, my phone ring tone sings ‘onome, onome’, if anyone was going to agree with me, it would be her. Always so temperate, always came across as very nice. Did she agree? Not only did she react ferociously, she informed me she has withdrawn her approval for me to hang her poster in my room. Talk about unrequited love. Onome, that’s it for us, I have discovered a new love that omosewa kindly pointed out to me in the comments section of the previous post, maybe she will love me as much as I loved you.

Thank you for the offers of alabukun, anadin extra and isi ewu. I don’t want to sound like an ingrate, but only the isi ewu will do, especially since I feel better now. For those of you who ignored the fact that I had sandpaper down my throat and nevertheless, demanded an update (erm, uzezi), I will attend church this evening to beg for the spirit of forgiveness.


HAPPINESS IS…

* Knowing you’re going out tonight and getting into bed at 10.00 pm anyway, for a nap.

* Two very young boys (12, 13?) selling gala and handkerchiefs under the blazing afternoon sun on Ikorodu Road at Maryland, arms across each other’s shoulders, and laughing

* Seeing old friends after 20 years and you continue where you left off

* Being able to sleep with both eyes closed

* Watching your children grow

* Going to bed without any consideration of when you will get up

57 comments:

Isi said...

happiness is...

having someone to laugh with, even in times of tribulation...

me? a fiery independent?!

i like! hehehehehehe!!!!!!!!

Jinta said...

* isi - you're right. those boys in the sun were also going thru' tribulation.

yep, you're a closet one

Simi Speaks said...

lol.. talk about calling people out.. i fear u o! hehehe

Jinta said...

* simi - that's 2 weeks' worth of courage

Nicky said...

Happiness is...

Two beautiful daughters. Individual, cheeky and energetic. Who love you without reason. A creation of you. And seeing the best of yourself in them...

I consider fiery independent a compliment...

Ms. Catwalq said...

1. I am a fearful independent? Nna biko, explain...

2. U were ill? Ah, mo sorry gan-an o. e pele.

3. Happiness is knowing you are not alone. No matter what....

Jinta said...

* nicky - you're welcome.

there was i thinking your daughters are a creation of your partner. hmmm.

* ms catqalk - thank you jare. i was so sure you would have sent me peppersoup had you known

Allied said...

Modern-day dinosaurs? abeg choose another animal...dinosaurs are extinct.

Wasn't aware you were sick, i would have offered my grandmother's agbo laced with 7-up... How body?

Happiness is getting a call at 6am from work telling you not to come in cause a water pipe busted.

Jinta said...

* allied - heyyy! agbo and 7up? used not to mind that. nowadays, it is agbo and hot drink that i like.

you prefer tigress to dinosaur?

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

lol! All this blogville love, na wa. So, na you and omosewa, eh? Okay, you must express your undying love and affection to her. I'll be back to read your post on this topic. lol!

Oh, and sorry on not feeling too well. Glad you will be able to find it in yourself to ask God to help you forgive. lol!


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IT WAS SO MUCH EASIER WHEN I ONLY HAD ONE...

Sherri said...

easy dude with the back flips and cartwheels o.lol

glad u re feeling better, ur throat must be ready for primer.
it's either my frame of mind was doubtful or ur charming nature wore me down..

wam! are u trying to say females are illogical?

here i was looking to make a personal delivery isi ewu!

For the love of me said...

I could have said so much more on that post but because I didnt want you including me in your feminist list, I didnt, AND you still included me eh.

To sleep with only one eye closed, no be witch be dat?

I have stalked your blog all week and still wasnt first. Sad, sad,what portion are you giving to all these women?

Happiness is to be free.

Jinta said...

* solo - what can i say? all the love in me, gotto share it

God answered my prayers: i've forgiven

* sherri - something tells me it will take a lot more than anybody's charming nature to wear you down, so i'm guessing it must have been your state of mind

still looking out for the self-delivery isi ewu. will try to redeem myself in the meantime

* for the love - most times, it's the things left unsaid that sound louder

Jinta said...

* sherri - you do diy? i'm impressed.

Sherri said...

why not? if not.

Desy said...

I am on holiday this week from the graduate program and I will most definately be having this moment of happiness multiple times

* Going to bed without any consideration of when you will get up

how ironic... you called me out in your post... and I called you out... lol

Happiness is getting that first taste of your favorite ice cream after playing outside for hours

laspapi said...

That image of the boys laughing hard, hands on shoulders while selling gala and 'kerchiefs at Maryland? I wish I could have a picture of that in black and white- large and framed.

Happiness is making intelligent, amusing conversation.

!*!*!*!*!Fresh and Fab!*!*!*!*! said...

hehe, lost me with this post, i had no idea what i was reading

ure rite sha, but u 4got, having some1 you can share your life with....

o yh, i just remembered gala, what a disgusting snack..

Jinta said...

* desy - you did not add 'on a summer's day'.

enjoy your break, these things tend to end all too soon

* laspapi - me too o, i wish i had the picture, but lugging my camera with me in lagos always makes me feel 'touristy'

* fresh - you got lost cos the post is a consequence of my previous one

you hated gala? i loved it with coke in primary school

Omosewa said...

Jinta dearest, why are you talking in past tense. All others are counterfeit, im the only original*rolleyes*

Happiness is taking out your braids...

Have a lovely week.

Shey you know you're the Balogun lehin obinrin of blogville:D

Desy said...

jinta- i live in florida... it's always summer here...lol; but you are right so...

Happiness is getting that first taste of your favorite ice cream after playing outside for hours on a hot summers day.

ps- looked at the post twice did ya?... well, you inspire great things ;-)

Jinta said...

* 'sewa - no min' them? awon da?

* desy - i should know, i have a little place in davenport, although i suffered one october when it was extremely cold...

thank you for humouring me with the summer's day correction, the way you gently correct, careful you dont end up being a teacher; and for the compliment. not used to it

Florida of Free Spirit said...

'seeing an old friend after 20 years, & continue where u left off'???????????? jinta, i hope dat doesn't apply 2 ex-girlfriends or friends with benefits.

it's very funny dat i was number 3 (or waz it 4) of ur list of tigress. my man read my post on R-E-S-P-E-C-T, & declared dat feminist meetings wouldn't be allowed in his house o. anyway dear, am not like dat o. on ur last comment on my blog, i totally got ur point. i just needed to point out d error of pple equating poverty to happiness & riches to misery.

what is happiness to me????? being loved despite all my flaws. makes me want to b better, more desercing of dat affection.

bumight said...

wow, i see I've missed a lot.
so u were sick?
can I share ur isi-ewu when it comes?

Florida of Free Spirit said...

u were sick??????? eh ya. pele o. u don well now? u want some massage????? or maybe u need to get more sex. hear it just abt cures everything ... lmao. no talk say na me talk o

Honeywell said...

LMAO! ok, regarding the post you left me, i apologise... ;) you know you are my one and only...

"HAPPINESS IS…

* Knowing you’re going out tonight and getting into bed at 10.00 pm anyway, for a nap."

Depends on what you mean by "nap".... but i won't assume anything, for now anyway..... I don't remember the last time i could fall asleep by 10pm, regardless of how tired i am.. i don't even think its humanly possible to be asleep at that time anymore... especially after going out? uh uh.

for me, right now, seeing a friend after 20 years and hitting it off without all the fakeness and being able to sleep till whenever sounds like heaven... pure, unadulterated bliss....

soupasexy said...

happiness is finding love in yourself and being able to share it:0)

Tandra said...

that last one is a bit scary.. no consideration of when u;ve to wake up..sounds like a date with death!
u do know death is like sleeps cousin,right? :D

Nyemoni said...

seeing the works of your hands coming to fruition in due season....not a second late!

Onome said...

ehheennn??Jinta!! no wonder u dont visit my blog anymore!!! ok oooo I go take am like dat...no worry...am a survivor am gonna make it...am a survivor etc etc...am trying to sing destiny's child....lol

anonymous gal said...

happiness is hangin out wit me!!!hope u are much beta.

Onome said...

o yes happiness to me is having lots of friends and lots of money hahahahahaha

rethots said...

Happiness,.....is getting a 'thank you' after much toil & sweat.

Happiness,....is not being castigated by others even when they agree not with your point of view.
Oh, a much happier world we'd have when people realise, we all need not have one & same opinion yet, can still accommodate on another.

The Indecent One..... said...

lmao. ori e! issues bruv...u gat issues!

emi fiery ke? anyway, that hot water has extended to u. I was boiling it in a kettle just 4 laspapi, but i'll boil in a pot so it'll just be enuff 4 the both of u.

meanwhile, good to see u back on ur "hand". flu is a curse. pele :D

guerreiranigeriana said...

ehn, mr. jinta...so you sit there with scratchy throat to call me a modern-day dinosaur?...i can deal with independent, once you explain yourself (not that i disagree or agree, just curious how you came to this conclusion:) but dinosaur?...of all of God's creations?!...why not something a little more agile and sleek?...like a panther or a jaguar?...they're fierce and independent and rare (and they still exist, not like dinosaurs-are you alluding or foreshadowing here?)...

...sorry you were sick...i am trying to ward off such as i have been surrounded by folks recovering or getting sick all weekend long!...argh...

...happiness is reading jinta's blog in the morning...

Queen of My Castle said...

Dammit! 36th to leave a comment?! Haba! LOL

Watching your children grow is such a heartwarming gift not to be taken for granted, and there is nothing like lying down at night and not having to set an alarm for the next morning. Pure bliss...

EXSENO said...

I think happiness means something different to each person, depending on what they want or need in life.

You have a pretty good list there.
I definitely agree with,

Seeing old friends after 20 years and you continue where you left off and Watching your children grow

Two very good ones.

Jinta said...

* florida - no, not ex girlfriends, maybe friends with benefits. lol. i actually was thinking of an old school mate

and you came in at no.2. it was actually a close toss up btw you and sherri for 1st position

i owe your man a drink or 2 when i come to naija, for his declaration. he is a man's man

i agree that sex solves these problems. sometimes, i think it is too much of it that does not give my body time to recover. hmmm. i think i'll go on the lookout for some more

* bumight - NO! i refuse, i protest, i yari, you cannot share my isi ewu. na sherri dey cook am, you know how long it took me to get her to show that glimpse of tenderness?

had difficulty accessing your blog yesterday

* honey - you need to relax more i think. i find that i sleep better when i'm not as broke as a church rat

* soupa - you've gone deep. we need to love ourselves first, i agree.

love the shoe

* tandra - now that you brought that up, how easy do you think it would be for me to fall asleep next time? ok, i'll be stalking your blog if i cant go to sleep

* 'moni - quite right. the analogy could be applied to children too

* onome - dearest, erm, you would have noticed that i do visit your blog if you updated

* anon gal - much so, thank you. i should look forward to hanging out with you then

* rethots - people should be able to accommodate differences, i agree. unfortunately, rather than celebrate these, some would attack

* inde - thinking abt whether i should go back and embrace my flu or be brave and face your hot water

* g-nigeriana - t-rex was an exceptionally fearsome animal, the anthropologists tell us. do you prefer tigress?

* QomC - watching mine is no. 1 for me too.

i'm still going back to yours to gulp some more air

Uzezi said...

happiness is knowing that u can eat starch and banga soup anytime u want.

happiness is knowing that jinat finally updated.
u dey wait like afrobabe make ur comments run pass 100 abi? na wa for una! I no complain

Jinta said...

* exseno - i just caught a glimpse of happiness and realised this minute that if one were happy, one does not need any other thing

Jinta said...

* uzezi - ahh, God show me your mercy, this woman has not read the post to see that i mentioned her name specifically, saying she does not care that i was ill. Lord, where art thou? i dont need comments in the 100s o, but i will have banga soup with iyan. there's something abt starch that i associate with clothing

Jaycee said...

Lol @ this post...

I liked this one:

Happiness is...

Two very young boys (12, 13?) selling gala and handkerchiefs under the blazing afternoon sun on Ikorodu Road at Maryland, arms across each other’s shoulders, and laughing. "


Jintaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!

Jaycee said...

Happiness is knowing ur life is not as complicated as you think it is...

Jinta said...

* jaycee - i believe you abt life not being that complicated.

i loved those 2 boys when i saw them

beautiful soul said...

Happiness is a temporary thing.. enjoy it while it lasts.

Pink-satin said...

Happiness is having all your heart desire

Happiness is world peace!

Jinta said...

* beautiful soul - happiness is also a beautiful soul

* pink - a big Amen to that

30+ said...

Dinosaurs, Tigeress hhmmnn okay o just because nitori you said you were not feeling well..I shall let this one slide.

* Seeing old friends after 20 years and you continue where you left off* - Agree met one of such some years ago we just started gisting again as we did in primary school.

*Happiness is being at peace with yourself*

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Jinta said...

* 30+ - grateful you let my comment slide, maybe you were so hard on me was why i was ill. lol

love your definition of happiness - sounds to me like: 'happiness is happiness'

* belinda-anne - Allah seriki! i guess music is your thing, revealing my age here, never heard of 'emo'. 80's soul/funk for me please, and some 60's highlife

Uzezi said...

i did not care that u were ill? I didn't have to say nothing, cos we had settled the matter up above and He said ur health was restored. OK?

and happiness is also the peace derived after finally doing what u have always wanted to do for urself.

pamela said...

Ehn Jinta: When did you update....LOL!!!

:D

Jinta said...

* uzezi - you're so right the matter had been settled above.

happiness is when we settle matters with Him above

* pammy - you've been away too long, it would appear

Afrobabe said...

Happiness is...

Knowing he is going to touch you and knowing how good it will be before he even makes a move....

yeahhhhh thats happiness alright!!

Jinta said...

* afro - i'm a student o, yepa, and i'm still impressionable

Afrobabe said...

See this old man oh.....but u know am right!!!

Jinta said...

* afro - i still be student, you have to be gentle with me. lol